I
never thought of my self as a nudist. It was something that never
really occurred to me, in fact I never even knew there was such a
thing as nudism or naturism. I only associated my love for being
naked with nudism when a friend introduced me to people at a party
saying “this is Michael... he is a nudist”. It was only then that
I realized I was probably part of something much bigger and that
until then I never felt the urge or need to meet like minded people.
So
lets take a journey back to when It all began. I was in high school
around 15 or 16 years old and always used to come home on a warm
summer day and feel like I just wanted to take off all my clothes and
walk around the house naked. I had no idea why, but I did. I liked it
so much so to the point that by the time I was about 17 I had already
taken to sleeping in the nude and stopped wearing underwear. I soon
found myself being naked whenever I possibly could. I would strip off
my clothes the moment I got to my room, and speedily put them back on
when my parents came home. This became a regular occurrence and
before long was waiting for my parents to go out as I would nude up
the moment they pulled out of the driveway. As time went on I became
more adventurous and began making my way down stairs, at first for
food or drink, then eventually to wander around or watch television.
All the while keeping a close ear out for the car doors closing in
the garage with just enough time to scramble two by two up the stairs
to my room where I could dress, my parents none the wiser to my
nudescapade.
Nudity
was never an issue with my family however, it was something that was
accepted in time and place. By around eighteen my parents had already
figured out I stopped wearing underwear and that I slept in the nude.
They had no issues with me walking nude from my room to the bathroom
or toilet when getting ready for bed or having a shower. We even all
shared the bathroom up until I moved out of home in my thirties. It
was a place that was acceptable to be naked as we were always so in
that space within the home. Until today they have no issue being
naked around me and I them. It was and I believe still is difficult
for them to understand that one could simply be naked while doing all
the things he or she enjoyed, such as watching television or doing
housework.
By
my early twenties I was ambling about in the back yard and even had
mowed the lawns a few times. My father had come home from work early
one day to find me hanging the washing in the nude. He didn't say
anything for a few minutes of conversation but then eventually asked
me to put some clothes on. It was around this time that I began to
feel that this is what I loved to do and would always want to be
naked when I could. It was the moment my friend introduced me to
someone as a nudist that awakened something in me and I consciously
chose the path of someone that always wanted to be nude. I began
searching the internet and tried to find out more about this thing
called nudism. It was in this time of my journey that I realised
there was something missing, I had no body to share my new found love
with. So I began searching for friends, people I could meet with and
go to nude beaches that until now never even knew existed.
I
had moved out and back in to home a few times as a young person does
in their life as they mature, and was always disappointed that I had
to go back to a life of being clothed more often than not. My family
and I had a restaurant by the peninsular which suited me perfectly as
it was very close to the nude beach I loved going to. I managed to
convince my cousin to join me occasionally in the nude and he also
accompanied me to the beach once but still struggled to meet people
that would share my love of a nude lifestyle. Sharing with people
that I was a nudist was also a difficult part of this journey until
now in my mid thirties. I had to be quite selective of who I told and
was very apprehensive when I did tell them. Fortunately for me, all
the people that know now have been positive and supportive of my way
of life. They were very happy to talk about it and I was thrilled to
answer questions about nudism the best I could.
At
twenty nine I met my now beautiful wife and fell in love so quickly I
ended up following her back to Japan to live for a year and a half. I
grew to love the Japanese way of life and the culture and found
myself longing for the hot springs and public bath houses. I was
often asked by Japanese colleagues and friends if I wasn’t
embarrassed at all to be nude amongst other people. I found this a
great segway to open up the conversation of my lifestyle choice. For
those of you who don’t know, Japanese bathing culture is quite
different to the way we bathe in the rest of the western world which
I will save for another entry.
I
have discovered that regardless of being in Japan or Australia I have
never met with negative response to the concept of being naked for
the sake of being naked. Miss understanding and negative response are
two different things. Of the people I have told the most negative
response has been “ I could never do that!!” to which I ask why?
And in all cases the answer is simply, “ I just can't” however,
the most commonly asked questions about nudism I have encountered
which stems from misunderstanding is “ What if you see a hot girl
and you get an erection?” or “ Aren’t nude beaches full of old
wrinkly fat people?” So as a result I have taken it as my duty to
my self and to a greater extent to inform people around me and
clarify some of the reasons for being a nudist, or even just being
nude for no reason. I have recently by means of social networking
revealed to all my friends and family that I am a nudist. I was tired
of selecting who viewed what and decided that it was time they all
knew. Generally this was well received however I had hoped to
stimulate more conversation and have the opportunity to inform more
about the lifestyle.
As
a nudist and most would agree it is more common that friends or
family would not be comfortable when one is nude in their company.
This Is most certainly the case with my family. There are some among
my family and friends who are absolutely fine with the idea even if I
am the only one. I can only have dreams that may be one day they will
skinny dip with me and feel comfortable enough to stay nude
afterwards but that may ever only remain a dream. There is one thing
that amazingly happened after the great reveal which was something I
had been searching for for as long as I could remember learning that
I was a nudist. It was almost as if the universe opened up to me and
I was able to for the first time, begin forging friendships with
families and couples that are enjoying the same model of life as we
are. We had begun a new leg of a journey meeting people along the way
and perhaps in the future live the dream of many nudist to operate an
establishment friendly to nudists. My wife by no means considers
herself a nudist tho her mentality and attitude toward the lifestyle
and ideals of nudism and her attitude toward nudity is very much the
same as the seasoned nudists that are ambling around the beaches
today.
So
here we are in the present day at the beginning of the rest of my
life as a nudist. We have begun the next stage of a life long journey
heading toward what we hope will be a bright future in nudism. I can
only hope and wish that my contribution by means of informing my
family and friends and the people I meet along the way of how
wonderful life can be if one can accept their body the way it is,
accept what others think of them and disregard any negativity toward
them for how they look. Body image I believe is the one key element
that prevent people from simple tasks such as changing in the change
rooms or even in front of friends. This same body image problem stems
from the lack of understanding and childish sexual behavior toward
nudity in a natural state, openly joked about in media and pushed
down upon children In schools and religious institutions.
From
today I carry forward a task set upon myself by myself to bring
knowledge and understanding of nudism and the normalisation of nudity
to people who are willing to read. I will share my experiences,
stories, thoughts and opinions in this space. I am no social
scientist or psychologist and do not know anything about the finer
points of social interactions, I am merely a person who is sharing
ideas and opinions for the purpose of opening dialogue about the
wonderful lifestyle we call nudism.
1 comment:
" I have recently by means of social networking revealed to all my friends and family that I am a nudist. I was tired of selecting who viewed what and decided that it was time they all knew. Generally this was well received however I had hoped to stimulate more conversation and have the opportunity to inform more about the lifestyle."
Excellent article, keep up the good work. I have never lost a friend because I told them I was a nudist. And you certainly can't lose family, they are with you forever.
Bruce Kendall
Thailand Naturist
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