Nudism is not something that comes naturally to most. In fact, it is not something that comes to mind for many when they think about dealing with body consciousness, self confidence or other emotional/mental issues.
I was recently amazed to hear that a friend I helped some time ago using the idea of nudism/natural nakedness to overcome her body issues had been blown away by the candid yet profound statement made by her 11 year old boy. This all stemmed from the way nudity was treated in the home and the positive effects it had on my friend with her issues.
For privacy I cant divulge real names so we shall use pseudo names. So here is what transpired between my friend an her boy.
"Both my boys especially Naruto are at an age now where they compare penis sizes in the shower, talk about boobies you know all that pre teen stuff and because they have both had age appropriate sex Ed at school so it provokes thought. Naruto asks me often about body parts and sex Ed questions.
He shares so sincerely and honestly. Anyway I said to him the other day ... Naruto I really appreciate your maturity around the questions you ask me and they are never asked from you for you to mock when I give you the answer. You actually think about it. I said how do your friends go asking that stuff with their parents. He said they are all really immature mum and disrespectful and giggly in their answers. I said oh well what do you think is different for you ? Do you know what he said Michael .... he said mum because you walk around naked at home half the time and you let us do it if we want to ... (Stevie especially can go naked all day at home . ... ) he said I have learnt that our bodies develop the way they do, girls and boys should never be sexualised for being naked or asking questions like I do mum.
It’s taught me to respect you as a woman so I must do it to my partner and it’s taught me about my body and not being self conscious cos I am a bit chubby mum but also being naked and in your skin or being naked and intimate is something that is normal and should be respected !!! Blew me away.
I took from that kids who see their parents natural and naked will be the more mature ones when it comes to body image, intimacy and what’s normal innate behaviour."
"The other thing with Stevie too you might find interesting is that at school he has to be medicated because of all the bullying trauma so it helps him not be impulsive and he can self regulate and not get too overwhelmed with his day. However he doesn’t eat a lot as it suppresses his appetite. He lost a lot of weight. So me being earth mumma did a little experiment. Because I saw how calm he was naked on weekends ... (most people would feel exposed )
I stopped medicating him on weekends to see if there was any difference. He doesn’t need it if he is naked so we have a naked happy unmedicated boy who eats all weekend. Weight going back on."
Nudism or natural nudity can hell people in many ways. It may be an odd ball kinda fix but there is no one way to deal with some of the issues people face in their lives. Nudism has helped me be more accepting of my body. As most young men are I was very conscious about certain elements of my physique growing up. Being a nudist really did help me overcome those afflictions and allowed me accept myself how I was.
If there were more people willing to step out of their comfort zone, they may find that doing something as dramatic as getting naked, could boost self confidence, heighten spiritual awareness or even just shock themselves into addressing the fears or afflictions they may have.
There is something about being naked that strips away the layers of comfort. It exposes the vulnerabilities and leaves no place to hide. It offers liberation and freedom from the constraints of societies imposed status values.
I am so very glad I had the opportunity to coach my friend through her transition from being completely un-able to look at herself naked in the mirror, to spending the day dancing and cleaning naked or getting out in the garden with her buns in the sun. It has led to a healthy way of life for her and her boys to the extent where they respect themselves, their mum, women and others as natural beings. Not to mention, being able to reduce medication for one Stevie and seeing them both grow with a healthy mindset toward nudity.
While they may not consider themselves nudist, they are very much living life the nudist way. Well done earth mumma!!
The boys names were chosen to reflect their character which is represented by the characters of whom I chose.
A Proud Nudist sharing thoughts and ideas about nudism/naturism so that others can learn to appreciate and understand what we do and why we have such a passion for this manificent lifestyle. Through understanding i hope we can gain more public awareness and eventually defeat the stigma that is associated with nudism/naturism and nudity in general.
Monday, 18 March 2019
How can nudism help in life?
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Monday, 25 February 2019
Why I Dont Go To Events
As some may be well aware, many nudist communities and groups have events or gatherings designed as private functions. It is great to see many of these events happening all over town and even to read about them on blogs or articles from over seas.
Contrary to what the title suggests, I do get to some events but not as many is i would prefer It can be sometimes difficult as a number of factors are at play when I think about joining one of these events., and its usually timing, money and location... Usually in that order. Life can often be a bit of a hurdle when it comes to these things especially if you are in a working family with kids, school, sports and other social get ups with non-nudist friends.
Timing
Often it is as simple as dates for events falling on the same day/night we are already doing something. This can not be helped however, sometimes it is a matter of not enough notice for the planned event and the event date. It is unfortunate as not everybody is as flexible with arrangements for a quick meet up or making a night out for dinner or some other kind of event.
Money
Unfortunately this is usually the deciding factor on weather most people go to an event. Often as venues need to be hired or booked out for the event the associated cost is usually a little on the steep side. This again can not be helped and makes it difficult for some to attend.
Location
This is a big one for me!! Often events are located a reasonable distance from where I live. Often the event organiser will plan the event and its location near to where they reside. This is fair enough however, something to consider would be the location of other nudists. Trying to set up events that are more centralised would potentially increase the chance of greater numbers attending. Now it is understandable that perhaps the venue in that area has offered to host the event and it has worked well for the organiser as they are locals.
It would be great to see more affordable events and more of them spread over a wider area of the city. So I guess all I can do is try and support the ones that are organised locally and hopefully regular affordable events will present closer to home.
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Saturday, 26 January 2019
Neighbours
Always an interesting one, and sometimes a fun discussion when you get busted by your neighbours. I have had my neighbours bust me on a number of occasions. While I have heard from some that the experience was distressing for Mrs Mackle over the fence, I have been quite lucky that it has not been so for me.
On a few occasions I had been walking back up the yard from the shed and my neighbour was hanging the washing. She caught a full view, gave an awkward hello and carried on what she was doing. Her Husband, on a seperate occasion just came out and began having a chat over the fence while I was clearing the fence line to install a privacy screen. To give you an idea, the fence is 900mm high and they are on the elevated block, so yeah...good vantage point if I'm in the middle of my yard. These are just a couple of occasions of quite a few more., not just by one neighbour but three that have seen me doing my usual daily nudescapade.
Oddly enough I never seem to get any complaints from them...(or a visit from the boys n blue) which I am thankful for. I do make some effort to be discrete and if they have visitors I avoid moving in view as to not freak out their party goers.
We do have one neighbour who is quite ok with it, so much so that whenever she visits I need not get dressed. It is a real pleasure to be amongst people who are willing to accept me for who I am, and not insist that i change that within my own home. This all came about when she popped over for some reason to which I can't remember. I had a knock on my door and true to my door sign which forewarns people that if they visit un-invited, they would likely be greeted by nothing but a smile. Well, it was my lovely neighbour. She didn't bat an eyelid, and when I apologised she told me it was no problem and said its all good, no need to get dressed.
I have usually made it a point to let my neighbours know that I am a nudist and not to freak out if they see me naked in my yard, but this time around, I only got a chance to do that with one of them. Now we enjoy an occasional visit, me remaining naked. My other neighbours were not so lucky and had to find out by surprise.
I guess at the end of the day, if you try to be considerate and go about your business as normal but bare in mind that they may be out and may see you. Keeping out of sight might not be the easiest or practical option but being somewhat discrete may help to ease that awkward hello over the fence.
Monday, 14 January 2019
Return
Its been a little over 4 years since posting on this blog. I was not sure if I was going to continue but i have been receiving a substantial amount of likes and increasing interaction on the facebook page https://www.facebook.com/The-Nudists-Journey-520120901462247/ so i decided to have another crack.
I am not sure how often I will post, and am unsure of which direction I will head with the content. As the Facebook page indicates, the concept is to create a coffee table book filled with storeys and images of everyday nudists willing to share their experience with nudism, in particular how they became nudists.
So... here we go. Hopefully, I can gain more traction than I have in the past and am fortunate enough to make some kind of start to the book I would so much love to create.
Please help by sharing this blog page as much as you can.
I am not sure how often I will post, and am unsure of which direction I will head with the content. As the Facebook page indicates, the concept is to create a coffee table book filled with storeys and images of everyday nudists willing to share their experience with nudism, in particular how they became nudists.
So... here we go. Hopefully, I can gain more traction than I have in the past and am fortunate enough to make some kind of start to the book I would so much love to create.
Please help by sharing this blog page as much as you can.
Thursday, 4 December 2014
Why Are There So Few Young Nudists?
As
a nudist of over 20 years its has always been a question that has
plagued my mind. Why are there so few young nudists? As I have grown
to love this lifestyle I have at times become a little disheartened
with the lack of people in my age range enjoying such an amazing way
of life. Lately I have been pondering this question and have come to
the assumption that its not that there are so few young nudist but
rather there are so few that have the ability to join in.
Traditionally the most common place for us nudies to hang out is the beach, camping
and nudist retreats. This led me to think, what if it didn't like the
beach so much? Or what if I cant afford to visit a nudist retreat? It
was not till I had a discussion with a young nudist couple I am
fortunate to be in contact with that I realised its simply just that.
It may be that young people don't have time, they have uni or a busy
social life which leaves them so little time to frequent nude beaches
and retreats.
Another
hurdle may be finance. Its simply not cost effective or affordable
for young people to spend what little money they have on visiting a
nudist retreat. I know when I was younger and had limited cash flow I
could never afford to go to a nudist retreat. Even now I am reluctant
pay all that money just to visit for a day and sit around doing
nothing but gas bag next to the pool. This leads me to another point.
There is nothing to do...
Most
establishments don't have much and usually don't cater for the younger
crowd or young family. There is simply not that much that interests
young people to venture out and visit such establishments.
There
are however on the rise, more nude events such as nude ten pin
bowling or nude pub nights and even roller skating. These are great
tho can also be a little on the pricey side. With the rise of nude
events we may well see a change in the age balance but I believe it
may take some time.
One
reason may also be that some people simply prefer to enjoy nudism at
home or in private. They have no desire to engage in social nudism
and usually do not search for anything else outside of the comfort of
their home.
A
major factor I believe is lack of progressiveness. In Europe we see
many more younger people enjoying nudism/naturism and we also see
accompanying this a more progressive society. In almost all occasions
my conversations with European people about nudity and nudism they
have shown a much more progressive view on this aspect of life. They
have less hangups about the concept of somebody enjoying an active
nudist lifestyle while here in the western world the sentiment is
different. In my case I have not been met with negative response but
positive support however, many people I know have experienced
otherwise.
With
a society as closed minded and prudish as ours its not hard to
imagine that many would be hesitant to reveal to others that they are
a nudist. This would make it difficult to meet and find other nudists
to socialise with. I have experienced this personally and have
noticed that until almost 2 yeas ago I was having great difficulty
meeting other nudists. It was only when I decided to reveal my
lifestyle to all of my friends and family did the change come about.
I
no longer had to hide facebook posts about what I was doing, I could
speak freely and educate those who did not understand and most of all
I could meet friends and have them in mixed company without fear of
someone slipping up and busting us all for being nudists.
Young
people have a lot on their plates with uni, part time work, busy
social lives just to name a few. If we are to draw their interest we
need to come up with more interesting ways to do so. I don't consider
myself young or old but I have a few ideas up my sleeves which I hope
will bring some young guns out of the woodwork.
A
new outlook is needed and some fresh ideas and more exciting
activities. It would be ideal to have a group similar to YNA (Young Naturists America) to do some progressive events and lead the charge in
healthy body acceptance. The YNA is a prime example of this kind of
positive promotion for nudism and body acceptance. They have done
nude body painting with expert body painting artists right in the
heard of New York City!! they have a nude Sunday session at a local
gym and have planned and executed plenty more events since their
inception.
A
good friend and very active nudist in our community and a member of a very active group called QSN (Queensland Social Nudists) has done an
amazing job of organising nude 10 pin bowling for three years running
and as a result others have now begun planning events of their own.
Nude snorkeling (which I regrettably missed out on), and soon to come
roller skating.
Let's
just hope we can attract more young people to these events, shift
the tide and debunk the stereotype that nudism is mainly old lumpy
and bumpy folks standing ankle deep on a beach looking out at the ocean. It will be a long journey, but I'm sure we will get there eventually.
Monday, 20 October 2014
Legalise a clothing optional beach in QLD
Hi all,
Its been a very long time but I have finally started to get back into the swing of things here in the blogasphere, and what better way to start then by highlighting a pettition that requires ALL of our support. We NEED a legal cloting optional beach in QLD (actually we need about 3 at least) but lets just start with 1. I ask and beg of you all who follow my blog (and I know I havent been around for a while), to follow the link and sign the pettition in support for a legal clothing optional beach at Alexandria Bay AKA A-Bay in the noosa area of QLD.
For many years this beach has been generally accepted as a clothing optional beach however, of late there have been a few complaints from prudish and narrow minded locals that they have been offended by the sight of naked pople on the beach. In each instance the offender was recognised to be not a typical nudist but a weirdo that has exposed themselves on the trail or in an area not actually on the main sections of the beach. These reports may become damaging and as proven in the past, the best way to combat this is to designate a specific area for nude use and anybody outside those areas can be liable for being served with a penalty.
Genuine nudist do not behave this way and strongly oppose lewd behaviour in public places. It is very damaging to the peception of our community and we will do all we can to keep the perves and wackos away from said areas.
This is very important to us a community and we could do with all the support we can get. You do not have to be a nudist/naturist but as my friends and family you have shown support for my lifestyle with your positive feedback when I opened up to everyone. And now I ask that you show it once more by helping us upgrade the status of this beach which is so important to my lifestyle and thos of my nudist friends.
Please follow the link below and help us win the right to skinny dip in the ocean and suntan naked without fear of being handed a fine for enjoying life as nature intended.
Its been a very long time but I have finally started to get back into the swing of things here in the blogasphere, and what better way to start then by highlighting a pettition that requires ALL of our support. We NEED a legal cloting optional beach in QLD (actually we need about 3 at least) but lets just start with 1. I ask and beg of you all who follow my blog (and I know I havent been around for a while), to follow the link and sign the pettition in support for a legal clothing optional beach at Alexandria Bay AKA A-Bay in the noosa area of QLD.
For many years this beach has been generally accepted as a clothing optional beach however, of late there have been a few complaints from prudish and narrow minded locals that they have been offended by the sight of naked pople on the beach. In each instance the offender was recognised to be not a typical nudist but a weirdo that has exposed themselves on the trail or in an area not actually on the main sections of the beach. These reports may become damaging and as proven in the past, the best way to combat this is to designate a specific area for nude use and anybody outside those areas can be liable for being served with a penalty.
Genuine nudist do not behave this way and strongly oppose lewd behaviour in public places. It is very damaging to the peception of our community and we will do all we can to keep the perves and wackos away from said areas.
This is very important to us a community and we could do with all the support we can get. You do not have to be a nudist/naturist but as my friends and family you have shown support for my lifestyle with your positive feedback when I opened up to everyone. And now I ask that you show it once more by helping us upgrade the status of this beach which is so important to my lifestyle and thos of my nudist friends.
Please follow the link below and help us win the right to skinny dip in the ocean and suntan naked without fear of being handed a fine for enjoying life as nature intended.
Wednesday, 2 October 2013
The Onsen Experience
While in Japan I was fortunate enough
to experience an amazing part of Japanese culture. I learned of the
great benefits of the bathing custom and how relaxing it can really
be. When we think of bathing here in the western part of the world,
we think of getting in the tub and scrubbing down. While this is true
in Japan they do use this time to scrub down after a long day at the
office or being out and about however, there seems to be another
element to the whole process.
Bathing has been a long time tradition
in Japan and some other parts of asia. Japanese used to bath in
public bath houses called “Sento”. This was because most people
could not afford a bath in the family home so off to the sento they
would all go. Many decades ago these sento used to be mixed gender
known as “Konyoku”, The whole family would go and wash and relax
in the warm steamy bathing areas. Now this was in a time when the
idea of mixed nude bathing was not even a thought in the forefront of
the mind, it was simply done an no body had any hangups about it. Now
days the Konyoku almost does not exist any more. The
only place true konyoku exist now are deep in the mountains in
natural hot springs called “Onsen”. They can be accessed but are
usually very difficult to get to and quite often involve a little bit
of hiking.
As the economic wealth of the average
family increased so did the ability for them to afford a bath in the
family home. This has changed the social element of the sento which
are usually located in and around the cities. People no longer
socialised as a community from the neighbourhood they would go as a
family unit as a night/day out and most likely not as regularly.
Families will go for relaxation and now days they are split by gender
as social attitudes changed toward mixed gender nudity. Dads will go
off with the boys and or son in-law or friends, and likewise for the
mums.
The etiquette of bathing in Japan is
different to the way we bath in the western part of the world. When
one enters a bathing area be it at home or in a sento/onsen the rules
are the same. When you arrive in the onsen the first thing you do
after you pay is to go to the respective dressing room, strip down
nude and make your way into the bathing area. Next, you must rinse or
wash your body before entering the bath and the bath is not for
washing but soaking only. This is the reason a whole family can use
the same bath in a night as they do not make the water dirty and the
bath is designed to keep the water hot and filtered. Many onsen/sento
have a few different kinds of baths ranging from mineral, cold, extra
hot and many more including green or red tea. After a relaxing soak
in the bath(s) people would then spend time scrubbing down shampooing
and all the personal hygiene acts one would normally perform during
wash time. They sometimes also have outside baths called “Rotenburo”,
these are magnificent in winter when it is cold outside and the
steamy 42deg water is up around your shoulders!
Going to an onsen or sento can be
daunting for those not familiar or comfortable with nudity in a
public setting but its not all that bad. The key to enjoying the
experience is to simply follow every body else and pretend you have
been there a million times. As a nudist I never had this issue and it
felt like such a natural thing to do. I did learn how good bathing
can be for the body and soul. I found my body was not as sore every
day and my injuries from a car accident was never a problem even when
it was cold. Its a good chance to de stress and relax after a long
day at work and until I learned to bath every night before bed I
never knew what I was missing. Now as we have been back in australia
for some time now I do truly miss the night time bath and even more
the Onsen.
I will be looking forward to visit
Japan again with my family and as usual we will go to an Onsen and I
will enjoy it immensely! If you should ever travel to Japan or even
Korea it would do you well to seek out an onsen or sento, your hotel
staff can direct you to one and most big hotels will have either
their own or a partnership allowing guests to use another hotels or a
local establishment.
Give it a try and lose yourself in the
amazing custom of the Japanese bathing experience.
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